Children who are stubborn, stubborn, or headstrong are also described as children with a “strong personality.” In reality, they are children who find it difficult to see reason, they want to have the upper hand and on many occasions, they have a low tolerance for frustration, especially when they are opposed. This trait of your personality does not have to be a bad thing, as long as you are educated with respect and empathy, towards yourself and towards others. The most common characteristics that stubborn children have are the following:
- They have a great need to be recognized and heard, so they may seek your attention frequently.
- They can be very independent.
- They are committed and determined to do what they love.
- All children have tantrums, but the stubborn can do it more often.
- They have strong leadership qualities, they can be “bossy” at times.
- They like to do things at their own pace.
- They can be difficult to educate.
No matter how old your child is, if he is stubborn or with a strong personality, you will notice it right away. It is possible that when he is a baby he does not want to be in his crib, when he is older he will reject food or when he is older he will answer you whenever you reproach him for something. It is also possible that with 6 years he wants to choose his own clothes, whatever you say … don’t worry! With these keys you can educate him so that his stubbornness is not a problem.
Listen to him
Communication is bidirectional. Stubborn children are often opinionated and tend to argue. It is important that you feel heard to avoid conflict or it will become challenging.
Connect with him, don’t force him
Counterwill is instinctive and is not just limited to children. Connect with your children. For example, forcing your six-year-old, who insists on watching TV after bedtime, won’t help. On the other hand, if you sit down with him and show interest in what he is seeing, things change. When you show that you care, your child is likely to respond more willingly to listen… Children who connect with their parents cooperate without conflict. Do you want to take the first step to connect with your child? Hug him!
Give him options
Stubborn kids can have their own ideas and don’t always like to be told what to do. Tell your stubborn four year old that he has to be in bed by 9 pm and all you will get from him is a loud “No!” Tell your inflexible five-year-old that he will have to play with a toy that you will choose and will not want.
Your child may continue to be defiant and say, “I’m not going to bed!” When that happens, stay calm and say quite naturally, “well, that wasn’t one of the options.”